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Autism and Identity

One of the most important and difficult issues in life is to find out what your identity is. It is not only a thing which lasts during puberty. If you have autism finding your way in life may be seen as an extra puzzle throughout life. In my opinion one's autism identity does change throughout the stages of life too. This is due to the stages of elderdom and the way our inner child grows.

If you are aware others find you different this can be painful. Among others you may often be surrounded by misunderstanding. Against this negative aspect of being different there is also a strong positive point. Your autism identity is very personal and unique just like every person with autism is. It can be feeled differently by people who are not officially diagnosed with autism, recently diagnosed with autism. The way you accept your autism and the way you handle life also creates your own autism identity.

People with autism are used to go our own way. This may make it easier for us to seperate from others and their opinions on how to deal with general issues. This source of own independent power people with autism carry with them kan be an important source of self esteem if you look for your own (autism) identity.

Your own autism identity is a pure thing. This is you, pure and unspoiled you. Be proud of it and try to make the best of it, let your inner autism child be heard and treat it well. You are worth it.


mumkeepingsane said…
My son is learning about his identity at a very young age in my opinion (considering his original severe diagnosis). The hardest part for him right now, at age 7, is knowing that he's different and being quite upset when other children don't understand him. When things happen that aren't quite under his control yet he very quickly perceives the negative reactions of his peers.

Thank you for writing about these things. Any insight into how adults view these things is very helpful to us.
Anonymous said…
I really like this blog post. I want to help my children have a strong identity which they feel comfortable in, not one where they have to mould themselves to fit societies expectations.
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